Building on my thoughts from last night… we are reaching a point with Seth where there is definite testing going on and a need for boundaries and discipline. And so we’re faced for the first time with what our methods will be and how we feel about what by some might be considered “normal” methods of disciplining children. I have always believed in trusting my instincts when it comes to parenting, and in this case that has led me to into the world of “positive parenting” and “positive discipline”. And what a world it is- I feel like I could read about it forever, as there is just so much information out there.
Basically, positive parenting is all about love, respect, and empathy. You build a strong and trusting relationship with your child, affirming who he is and how he feels, and causing him to want to do what is right, rather than only doing so out of fear of punishment. It prepares children to be self-disciplined, happy, and well-balanced as they grow up.
The more I read, the more I feel that the theories behind this model are so in sync with my intuition, and so right for my son. A friend shared a wonderful link with me recently, Aha! Parenting, and I have been soaking up a lot of the articles there.
I am also reading The Discipline Book by William and Martha Sears (the Sears have consistently written some of favorite parenting books, from pregnancy and birth to baby care and nutrition. Love them.) Aha! Parenting also has a great list of book recommendations that I plan to pull from next.
I know that not every parent feels the need to read all about how to do this, but that is always how I’ve learned everything. If something was interesting to me as a kid, I went and spent a few hours at the library. For me, reading about parenting solidifies and informs what my instincts are already telling me, and brings a method to it. It aids my confidence.
What are your favorite parenting resources? I’d love some new links and book titles to take a look at as we navigate these toddler and preschool years.